Vasectomy Reversal

When we first decided that yes, a reversal was the way to go to build our family, we had no idea it would take so much time or energy to make it happen. Not to mention money.

Before anyone thinks; well, if you can't afford the procedure, you can't afford to raise a kid. You might want to take a seat and hear some figures. We initially consulted with the physician who performed the vasectomy because he also does reversals. This would allow us to be close to home, and if insurance was going to cover any part of the procedure, it would be great to be at a local hospital. Nope! Not a drop of coverage. Although, some insurance companies do cover it, ours does not.

The doctor explained the procedure, said he saw no reason for complications. Seemed all good. Then he dropped the bomb. It would cost $10,000. Say what?!? Okay, so we inquire if they participate with any form of medical financing, like Care Credit. The doctor looks at me sideways and pretends to have no clue what Care Credit even is, as if I suddenly started speaking a foreign language. No, he would need $10,000 all paid up front, no financing.

Now, we aren't new to the parenting life or even life in general. We don't have $10k just tucked away for this. I put on my polite face, and we get the hell out of that office. For a $40 co-pay six years ago, my husband signed away his ability to have anymore children in a bad relationship. Now this very same doctor tells us, with a smug grin, we need $10k to undo it. I want to die.

Anyone who has been through infertility understands it is not cheap, and you have to search around to find a way. We decided to take the next few months and make sure everything was perfectly fine with me before going any deeper into this rabbit hole. After blood tests and a couple scopes, I got the best news of my life; at 35 I'm wonderfully fertile. Hormones are great and tubes are perfectly clear. So we started back onto the search for a reversal.

A quick Google search will reveal several doctors out there, varying costs and experience and distance. If you're in the same boat as us, I can't recommend enough heading over to Baby Center and checking out the community Trying to Conceive After Vasectomy Reversal. There you will find information about any doctor, and can hear honest personal experiences. That's how we ended up finding and choosing our doctor.

For us, Carolina Vasectomy Reversal is the right place. It isn't too far, it isn't too much, and we feel confident in Dr Daniel. Thus far, the office staff has been wonderful with every question we've had and is super friendly. We made the huge step of applying for Care Credit today and he is getting the short term disability paperwork from human resources. Next is to actually schedule the appointment. We just have to sit down and decide when we want to go!

This is us!

It only took us five years, maybe a hair more, to tie the knot. Saying it that way seems so impatient, and honestly, I was! I knew from the moment I met my husband way back in 2008 that I would marry him. The time wasn't right then for us to be together. Two years later we came together again and have been going strong ever since.

Now that we've made things official, everything is speeding along to build a little family. I've always wanted to be a mother. I was one of those girls who loved babies, loved her dolls, and couldn't wait to have her very own babies. I've daydreamed about what I would name my future children for years. I kept waiting for that man to come around, and in the mean time focused on my career. I spent my twenties going to school for nursing and completed two degrees. I was 29 when my husband and I began dating... the biological clock was already ticking.

As we started our relationship, since we had met before, I knew my husband had children. I was always worried about dating a man with children. How accepting would the children be? How stressful would it be dealing with their mother? What kind of role am I to play? The truth is, nothing prepares you and every circumstance is different. I consider myself so lucky that the girls embraced me with open arms. There is a huge age range; currently 17 to 7, and two different mothers with very different attitudes. I'm sure I'll cover this topic again (and again and again...) but I do want to say for now that I am incredibly lucky that the girls embraced me with open arms. What could have been difficult was less because of a bond that built love between me and the girls very easily.

I knew from the start my husband had a vasectomy shortly after the birth of his youngest daughter. It was heartbreang to me. We talked back and forth for literally years on what, if anything, we should do... Do I give up my desire to have a child? Do we end our relationship? Do we pursue a reversal? Do we pursue another option to raise a child together like using donor sperm or adoption? We did talk a lot about the last, but considering he has biological children, he didn't want our child to feel different. So we decided upon a reversal.

That brings us to now. We're currently finding a doctor, scheduling, and figuring out what we'll tell everyone. Welcome to our journey to making a baby!